The more I write about foster care, the more people hear my opinions. I believe that’s a good thing, but I worry sometimes that my emotion may overshadow my true feelings. And my passion may conceal my real personality.
When I write I usually do it with passion, emotions, and a past as a foster child that makes me feel the need to scream from the roof tops every WRONG I see or have experienced in the foster care system. But I don’t want my true feelings to get lost in all of that emotion.
So before I get busy writing more, now seems a good time to address some questions about myself, and avoid any assumptions readers might make.
When I Write about Foster Care
Please remember the following key points when you read any of my articles. They will help you gain a better perspective on the woman behind the words.
I am not angry in life
Do some of the things wrong with foster care anger me? Of course! But I know anger is not going to fix those problems. I’ve been through a lot of what today’s foster kids are going through, so I write about foster care from their perspective.
I know how they feel, and it hurts me to know there is very little any of us can do to immediately stop their pain.
When I talk about the things I see or hear I may sound angry, but the overwhelming emotion is frustration. It frustrates me that so little has changed since my own time as a foster child.
I am a pretty happy person
Please don’t ever confuse my writings, my past, and my opinions on foster care with how I am in my adult life. I have moved on from my past. It has made me a better person.
I have my ups and downs, but no one who knows me in real life would ever consider me a sad or unhappy person. When I write about foster care, that truth may be lost.
I had a rough childhood, went through many foster homes, and aged out without family, but I made an amazing family for myself.
I have a loving husband who manages to love all of my imperfections and make me feel like a normal person. I have 3 awesome children who are the light of my life. When I am with them all the bad stuff from my past fades.
Life is good even when it has downs, because I made it through foster care and moved on.
Even when I write about foster care, I don’t hate foster parents
In fact I have a lot of respect for most foster parents.
One of my favorite people in the world right now happens to be an amazing previous foster parent whom I am beginning to love like a mom. I also hang out with 2 foster parents in real life who are also amazing.
I only ‘hate’ foster parents who are in it for the wrong reasons. I don’t ever want anyone to confuse my frustration with a messed up system and a few bad foster parents as a general hatred.
Why I write about foster care
As a previous foster child I feel I have a lot to add when it comes to writing and talking about foster care.
The many foster parents I had gave me the ability to gain insight int0 different ways of fostering. I saw the good and the bad parts. I have known amazing foster parents, and I have known horrible foster parents.
Some foster parents spend a great deal of their own money making foster children feel like real children again. Others spend money they receive for their foster children on drugs.
I have actually seen a foster child commit suicide. But I’ve seen others succeed and find a happy place in life. Despite being included in some of the bad statistics for aged out foster children, I have also beat the odds in many ways.
When I write about foster care I hope to discourage bad foster parents, praise amazing foster parents, and give hope to foster children. Foster care can have GOOD outcomes, and I want to help people get that outcome!
When you read the things I write about foster care, I want you to remember my ‘been there, done that’ perspective. I want all foster parents and foster children to get a better outcome than I got!
I want you all to have hope, and I want us all to help each other grow into being the best possible versions of ourselves. No matter if we are foster children, previous foster children, or foster parents!